Need some ideas
I'm really at a loss as to where to start this post, but there are a lot of young people on the forums here so I thought maybe you all might have some suggestions. My 19-year old son moved in with me last month after getting into a bit of minor trouble with the law and things aren't going very well.
He hasn't lived with me in 5 years (he chose to stay with his dad when we divorced) and things aren't going very well. He isn't motivated to do anything other than text his girlfriend or talk to her on the phone, and watch TV. There is little to no help with chores, laundry, dishes, cooking... nothing.
His dad let him drop out of school and though he completed his GED classes last year, he didn't take the test in a timely fashion and now he has to go through refresher classes to be able to take it, but I can't get him to do anything about it. He doesn't have his driver's license either, so I'm playing chauffuer all the time and I can't even get him to go get his learner's permit for that, in spite of dangling the use of a car in front of him. when I try to talk to him, it's all "I know and I will, Mom", but it took me 9 hours to get him to carry 3 bags of trash 60 feet.
I'm NOT going to play "maid" for a 19-year old, but I'm sick of my house looking like crap because he won't clean up his messes. He has even started to take over the living room as his "bedroom" saying he "doesn't like sleeping upstairs".
So, do any of you "young people" (or others) have any ideas/suggestions on how to motivate him without starting a war? Any help would be appreciated greatly.