Now that I'm spending so much time here, I thought I'd pose a situation of my own.
DH and I have talked about fantasies and one of the few things we haven't actually done that interests us is a threesome with another woman. Before we were married, we did toy with another girl a little. Circumstances kept me from getting too involved (period ). He used a vibrator to give her her first orgasm (her only lover was apparently not too great) while I took care of him. He admitted to fantasizing about taking that all further. However, it was almost 10 years ago.
The threesome subject comes up in pillow talk and such. But when I seriously ask him what he thinks, he is wishy-washy, I guess. He says he's afraid he'd feel like he was cheating on me. But I know it is something that really turns him on (I got him to bring it up last time I was going down on him).
So, there are a few things I want to know.
First, how can I encourage him to be more comfortable with the idea so he knows it wouldn't be cheating?
Second, how would we find a third? He has a very good female friend, and she's cute, but I don't think she'd go for it, and I think that he'd find it weird since she is his best friend (almost like one of the guys). Is a friend a good choice, or would an acquaintance or even a stranger (getting to know them a bit first, of course) be better?
Third, well, once we find a woman who interests us both, how do we convince her?