To unfriend or not?
I always hate unfriending people on my facebook. It makes me feel like a horrible person. Which is why I'm asking what y'all think in this situation.
The person in question isn't really a "friend", per se. She was/is a friend of another friend, who is no longer my friend for reasons including this person. Ok, that sounds convoluted. **TL;DR version at the end
Let's try this: I used to play WoW. Until 4 months ago, I had played for almost 3 years, and become friends with several of the people in my guild. One of those people, J, became engaged to a girl, HJ. I friended HJ on Facebook, figuring that if she was in my guild and engaged to marry a friend, well...why not? She played and was in my guild as well, and we got along pretty well. And then...all hit the fan. She and J ended up splitting, with me in the middle as a mediator (because I always end up in that role), and I lost J as a friend because of stuff he said to me.
HJ has some pretty serious medical issues, including ones with her heart valves. She has recently attempted (again) to stop smoking, although I don't know where she stands with that right now because she hasn't posted any updates. She is engaged...again. To a different person. The second one in the 2 years (maybe?) that I've known her. And now...she's pregnant.
I think this is a bad idea, and very irresponsible of her. Not because she's not married - I really don't care about your marital status, as long as you can take care of the child you are bringing into this world. And there's the crux of it - she's a self-proclaimed commitment-phobe, who has serious medical issues that can cause her to have a very shortened life span. I'm not sure I can be supportive of her while she goes on and on about the pregnancy (which? she's only 5 weeks and let's not get me started on telling the entire world that early) and how hard it will (inevitably) be when she did this intentionally. You can't tell me she didn't know how babies were made! And I wouldn't be vocally unsupportive either, because that's just RUDE. I am, however, considering unfriending her. But doesn't that make ME rude? "congrats on getting pregnant, I don't want to be your friend anymore!"
If you made it this far, thanks for reading.
**For the TL;DR: commitement-phobe friend with medical issues is pregnant and I'm not sure I can deal. Am I rude to unfriend her?