Definitely under happiness...

Is where one would put the news that I am about to tell you.

After almost 8 years together, 7 married next month, and 6 years since we started trying...we are finally pregnant!

Only 6 weeks, mind you. I just found out last Thursday. But! Pregnant! I haven't done this before! And I know - some of you are wondering why I am announcing this already, when so much can go wrong in the first trimester. Believe me, I know of a million things that can go horribly wrong between now and 40 weeks. I have studied infertility until I was blue in the face, for about 4 years. I am familiar with birth defects, cord accidents, incompetent cervices, unexplained miscarriages, clotting disorders, low progesterone, and a myriad of other things. I still announce it. Why? Because this was a fluke. I honestly believe that. I may never get the chance to do this again. Whether I keep it for 18 days, weeks, months, or years...I plan on celebrating this as often as I can, for as long as I can. We even got a registry set up already! I try not to be superstitious, but I find myself knocking on wood and adding caveats to everything. My best friend, who doesn't pray at all, told me on Saturday that after I left her place on Thursday, she actually said a prayer for me...and that she, too, finds herself crossing fingers and knocking on wood. Smile

I blame my mother, my rheumatologist, and my best friends daughter. You see...my mom died about 21 months ago. Before that, and while she was still in control of her mental faculties, we were discussing Aaron and I, and how we were done actively trying, and were content with our lives the way it was. She told me "You know, you'll get pregnant when you're 33, because you wanted to be done when you were 30." I turned 33 three days before my last cycle. My rheumatologist put me on some meds for my FMS and asked if we were trying to get pregnant. I told him no, because we were infertile. He told me that this pill would make me infertile, so if we were trying it probably wouldn't happen. I told him it would take a miracle...and he told me "Miracles do happen, even when they aren't entirely welcome." I laughed. I shouldn't have. And about 2 weeks ago, my best friends 5-year-old daughter, who is in the "baby phase", asked me how old I was - I replied with "old enough". "Old enough to have a baby in your tummy?" she asked. I let her mother handle it, who simply told her that not everyone has babies in their belly, and pointed out some friends who did and didn't. And voila.

So yeah. Utterly stoked. My husband says he's "scared stupid". I won't say I'm not scared - I'm terrified. I have so many medical issues and I don't know how they're going to behave while I'm pregnant. With luck they'll mostly go away and behave themselves, but I'm not counting on it. I'll probably end up on bedrest around 6 months, if not earlier. I am supposed to be starting a new job on the 11th, and I've already told them since I won't be able to complete the contract. I will probably also end up with gestational diabetes, which means I won't be allowed to carry to term and will have a c-section...which just opens up a whole other series of worries that I am trying not to deal with.

On the whole, though, I think I can do this. It's a little late for backtracking anyways. Biggrin I have a good support system in place already. I'm sorry this is so long - I haven't been sleeping the past few days and I'm a bit rambly.

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Darkmage's picture

We'll all be rooting for you!

Gudy's picture
JeVoudraisCake's picture

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Good for you both! Best wishes, and keep us posted Biggrin

Tigger's picture

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I promise. As much as I can, anyways. I'm seem to be a bit scattered of late...gee, wonder why? Smile

fremmed's picture

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*****joy*****

MeiLin's picture

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I'm so happy for you! If it's a boy, you should name him Isaac, for "he laughs." Smile

Tigger's picture

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I'll toss the name into the ring, just for you. Smile We had names all settled on, and we've been settled on them for about 5 years. And now? We're debating the girls first name, at the very least. Perhaps I should toss Temmin in, just for S's & G's? Biggrin

Clare-Dragonfly's picture

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Congratulations! Here's hoping for a healthy pregnancy. And I agree with MeiLin about the name!

Capriox's picture

Embodiment

It's your kid, but I totally third the name suggestion. It's Sarai's story all over again, with a child for an angel Wink

Many many prayers and good wishes for you. I hope you end up with a beautiful bundle of joy, no matter how many obstacles.

Tigger's picture

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:8) Like I told Mei, I'll toss it into the ring for consideration.

Obstacles there will be, but I expect them, so I just have to get through them. What awaits on the other side will be so worth it.

Andrea's picture

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Wow, I'm so happy for you -- congratulations!

Raigne's picture

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who was a miracle baby and whose mother had a complicated pregnancy, let me say congratulations, and point to myself as proof that it does happen. Biggrin

Tigger's picture

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So far so good. Nausea, headaches, sore boobs...that's it so far. Got to see the heartbeat today when they did my dating u/s, so I'm all stoked now. There's a HUMAN in there - a real, live human!

TheBoy's picture

Embodiment

good luck!

sherinik's picture

Postulant

From someone on the opposite side of the fence. I became pregnant while on the pill as did my mother, so we're good catches in this family (which poses a whole new set of problems!)

But I've watched friends and co-workers who didn't fall pregnant easily, some who've tried IVF and hormone therapy and all sorts of things, and what I've seen roughly half the time is that for those who were unsuccessful, a few months after they stop 'trying', it happens anyway. And for those who did need help to get pregnant the first time, it seems the system gets kick started, and then it just keeps happening! A warning there... Smile

Generally speaking, pregnancies seem to go how the mother 'expects' them to go - with a heavy lean on the 'generally' part, no, not always, but still...enjoy the process! Look after yourself but don't obsess, keep doing what you can until your body lets you know you have to back off a bit (for the next 6-8 weeks you'll want to do a lot, then 20 weeks hits and you suddenly drop to half-pace) but absolutely and overall REVEL in it! You're doing something unbelievably amazing, even though it's commonplace, it's still brain-bending when you really think about it. Mother Nature knows what she's doing, hand over the reins and just enjoy the ride. Not that you'll have a choice when she decides it's time for a nap!

Zandu Ink's picture

Embodiment

Congratulations to you both! Wonderful news to be sure.

Here's to you three:

Dearest Father in Heaven,
Bless this child and bless this day
Of new beginnings.
Smile upon this child
And surround this child, Lord,
With the soft mantle of your love.
Teach this child to follow in your footsteps,
And to live life in the ways of
Love, faith, hope and charity.

Sláinte!

Tigger's picture

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or at least has the preggo brain to prove it. Smile We always said we were backwards - I'd carry the kid, since I have the necessary bits, but he'd have all the symptoms. I'd almost gladly hand over the sickness (which is pretty general right now) except that it helps me make sure that I am still pregnant. I'm terrified. Smile

And thank you for the blessing. It is appreciated!

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NorthwoodsMan's picture

Embodiment

Yea!!!

SkyRider's picture

Devotee

This is truly wonderful news and quite a blessing for you both. Smile I believe in miracles and have every confidence that this will work out beautifully for you. I will keep all three of you in my prayers. Please keep us posted and congratulations again!

Pikachu42's picture

Embodiment

I'm so happy for the both of you! I'll keep you both in my prayers! I hope everything works out beautifully for you!

Zandu Ink's picture

Embodiment

Now I feel like watching Ally McBeal re-runs...

Tigger's picture

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I loved that show. Some of them made me cry when I *wasn't* pregnant, so I'm thinking I probably shouldn't watch them right now. Gilmore Girls, though...I have several seasons of that in the back. Smile

Stormy's picture

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I am so very, very thrilled for you. Congratulations!!

Katie's picture

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I am so freakin' happy for you! Share ultrasound pics if and when, kay?
Totally doing a happy dance now.

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