Of closets and outing
Okay- so here's whats up. While in high school I first started to realize that I may not exactly be straight. When this was brought to light it wasn't too well received by the people I let know (my Mother and some friends) so I dropped the issue. Fast forward a couple of years when I told the guy I was dating at the time that I was open to this possibility of some sort of interaction with another female (and NOT that I was going to leave him. Just that this is something that was there that he didn't know about) Once again this was not well received. Two years ago or so this same issue came up yet again- this time with friends who were not only understanding but who also fell into the LGTB grouping.
At that time when I was talking to them about this I chose to drop the label "Straight" and chose to not pick up a new one, although if pressed I think that at the time I would have gone with "Bi-curious". The reason I rejected labels and refused to pick up a new one is because I feel that there are some issues that should not be labeled, and for myself one of those issues is my sexuality/interest in people. The thing is that when I chose to date someone I make that choice based on who they are and not what (male, female, trans, straight, gay, black, white, religious beliefs, socio-economic standing, so on and so forth) and sex is one of the things that don't factor into the choice. If I really like someone and wish to partake in physical pleasures with that person, I'll deal with it when the need arises.
However, if I take sex just on its own buy default I tend to gravitate towards guys (not that I've even had much gravitation there). But at the same time I am open to the possibility of hooking up with a woman- I'm just not 100% sure how I would respond.
Now for the real issues- there is a girl I really like and I've know a while. I know she's bi and I think she might 1)know I like her, 2)like me too, 3) both or 4)neither. Issue one is that I don't know how to tell her I like her (had this problem if I liked a guy too). We're planning on going to see Avatar sometime over our winter break and I was thinking of asking her if she would want to make it a date. The thing with that though is that she is also one of my best friends and I would hate to loose her because she might get freaked out or if we did date or some-such and things didn't work out. So there's that.
The second issue at hand is telling my folks that I don't consider myself straight and haven't picked up a new label. I talked with my sister about this last night and she said she wasn't too surprused but, as I mentioned earlier, the last time this was brought to either of my parents attention it was my Mother while I was still in high school and she was by no means happy about it. I don't think the issue has ever really come up with my Dad.
So- with all that out of the way- any advise?