Sex Toys

What is your favorite sex toy? I'm looking for everything: girl toys, boy toys, couple toys, kinky, vanilla, wireless, strap-on, internet-accessible, plug-into-the-wall, looks-like-it-should-be-illegal-in-49-states; you name it, I'd like to hear about it. They've been brought up before, like in the masturbation thread, but I don't think they have their own thread, and I'd like to get opinions from all of you. I collect them obsessively, so if you have something unusual I probably don't have, feel free to mention that too.

I'm also interested in toys for boys that have worked out well for you, because other than prostate stimulation, various vibrating cock/ball rings, and e-stim stuff, I haven't seen a lot out there (other then the fleshlight, which I've never really heard good things about).

If you're going to post multiples, let me know which one is your absolute favorite. Good sites that review sex toys are also welcome, as is anything that's vaguely relevant. Thanks!

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MeiLin's picture

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and see what you guys come up with. But of course, the biggest sex toy of all: de braiiins...

Gudy's picture

Embodiment

... are a tricky proposition, as you note yourself, although there are whole sites out there that have specialized in things to put up your but. Most of those are geared towards a gay audience, for some reason.

I know one guy who really likes his fleshlight, although I've never used one and am quite happy to use my hands instead.

The Aneros is nice, but I'm afraid I don't really have the patience for it, and I generally prefer my prostate stimulation a bit more intense than the Aneros tends to provide.

My favourite is probably a couple lengths of treated hemp rope, though. }:)

fairnymph's picture

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I have zero interest in sex toys....is that weird? For bondage, I'm inclined to use household or regular items (rope/scarves/what-have-you).

I'm particularly turned off by the idea of anything electronic, or made from synthetic materials. I'm sort of naturalist when it comes to sex. Also, vibration and dildos, etc, don't do anything for me. Not the right sort of sensation.

kawaiikune's picture

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And actually, although I have tons of them, for some reason I feel the same way sometimes. I really, really like all natural sex. It is more pure, and I love focusing on skin-on-skin and the sexiness of the moment. I don't even like condoms, even though I always use them. (I'm still with my first guy, so it's not a huge health concern, but you can never be too safe about the babies).

I also like sex with toys, but for different reasons. I like to experiment with different sensations. I know I like sex. What I don't know is what else I like. And, we had to do long distance for a while, so I expanded the collection. And then I started meeting interesting girls, and wanted to try that out, with and without toys.

Have you ever considered or tried wood, glass, or stone? And, do you generally need external stimulation, internal stimulation or both?

fairnymph's picture

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You've nailed it again my dear, I do think it is about a sense of purity for me, as well.

My late husband had a glass buttplug, but for a variety of reasons anal stuff doesn't work for me outside of fantasy, so I wasn't really able to gauge it in terms of the substance. I would definitely be less opposed to 'natural' toys, but they don't really appeal either.

Maybe I haven't found the right sort? I don't know. I haven't been whipped, but that sort of appeals, actually - and I like leather generally. I also like blades (and needles) of virtually any sort, but again, that's more of a general pain thing. Oddly, even though I'm sub, I get a sexually-tinged rush from injecting people (also cutting or biting - and I get the same from all of those done to me). But in terms of genital-focused stuff - no toy I can think of seems more appealing than a hand or a cock.

My preferred form of stimulation is g-spot via penetration; so far, only a real cock in the right position will do this. When I was younger I played with many different 'home dildos' to see if they were fun, but no luck (this includes a few actual dildos I played with later). Manual stimulation won't do it, either.

I do like manual clitoral stimulation by myself, a partner, or flowing water as well, though. That's pretty much it. I'm very basic! Lots of things *excite me*, but only a few make me cum (though thankfully I'm pretty quick, and can have multiple orgasms easily).

The electric nerve stimulation stuff you discussed earlier did pique my interest...I'd never heard of anything like that. It sounds almost futuristic!

Laureril's picture

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And neither does my Dom either, thankfully. Although he does like biting. A lot. And that's rather owchie when it's out of the blue, but it's just bruises and no broken skin, so I'm not too worried. You're a braver woman than I do enjoy that kind of thing - I'm always more than a little worried about involving broken skin.

I've wondered about getting some piercings but a) I'm too chicken to get anything below the belt and b) I'd like my nipples intact for breastfeeding - I've heard piercings can create scar tissue and cause problems in that regard. Maybe I'll just stick to my ears for now.

There's a lot of info out there on e-stim. Basically there's two types of units, the Tens unit and the Violet Wand. As far as I understand, a violet wand is pretty safe, and just kinda tingly. With a Tens unit you have to be a little more careful about running voltages through places you shouldn't - especially avoiding the chest cavity.
I've never played with either, but there's certainly info out there about them, so go poke around.

MeiLin's picture

Most High

My left was pierced (it's grown in since), and I had zero trouble feeding my girls. In fact, with No2 I could have fed the county.

fairnymph's picture

Embodiment

To quote LKH, I can't handle pain 'straight out of the box'. I need to be aroused before it's introduced, and it needs to increased gradually in intensity. I do worry about broken skin, but it depends on the type of wound, etc. Thin, shallow cuts can produce nice blood flow but won't scar or hurt too badly.

And oddly, I don't like or fetishize piercings. I have 5 in my ears, combined between both of them, but I'd never get a piercing anywhere else. I definitely wouldn't want to fuck up future breastfeeding, either.

kawaii was talking about a much more finely tuned type of e-stim; I know about the types you mentioned and don't like either. I can't even bear TENS for therapeutic reasons, and the thought of using it sexually is unpleasant.

Davik's picture

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I'm generally a dom (never actually tried being the one tied down), but I appreciate a little biting and scratching as a sign I'm doing something right, but there's a limit, and I have to be warmed up some as well. I don't mind having a girl put a good set of teeth marks in my shoulder when we're in the middle of things, but I had a girl leave me with a few nail scars (I use scar because you could still see them a year later) early on that bothered me.
The other thing that I have to get used to is actually being the one to inflict. In the first few times I actually prefer things to be a little more vanilla until we get to know each other in bed and sort boundaries out. The same girl who gave me the scars was an old friend of mine with whom I had a fling, and while I'd known her for years it was odd just jumping in to the more extreme stuff. I had no problem with the tying up, but the spanking, and even more so the fact that she had a thing for being choked kind of bothered me. While choking is a little odd/dangerous still, I feel like if I had been in a relationship with someone for a fair amount of time that I wouldn't have any real problem with the rest of it. Mainly I think my problem was that our first time together involved her tied (and she made damned sure that she couldn't get out of my knots) to the bed asking to be hurt Blum 3

fairnymph's picture

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Oh, I forgot about my tendency to completely forget how long my nails are. I get carried away, hey! Yes, definitely a sign that my partner's doing it right. I've never drawn blood on a partner, though, and I tend to get swept up long after I'm out of the box, so yeah...agreed.

I think a lot of doms, though especially het men or men with women, tend to be nervous about inflicting because of all the social inhibitions. I think it also makes sense to start out 'more vanilla' at first and work up to the more intense stuff, for all sorts of reasons. But, I'll guess your friend felt she knew you well enough to completely trust you, which is quite flattering nonetheless. Remember, she did ask for it. Biggrin

Ahh, choking. I discovered that one about a year ago, accidentally (I was in the tub). I don't think I like it to the point of danger, but that edge of fear can be nice. Gotta be careful about marks after the fact, though, and I bruise very easily.

Davik's picture

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We'd been friends for years and we'd talked about sex and what we wanted for a few months before she actually came to visit me for a long weekend, so we knew exactly where the boundaries were and trusted each other. I won't get in to that kind of thing without knowing all the boundaries. The choking still bothered me though, because I know just how fragile the neck is; that was one of those strikes in martial arts that was repeatedly labeled "only if you mean to kill".
Speaking of which, no girl ever as to worry about nail marks from me; one of my old martial arts habits that I keep up is keeping my nails extremely short. You only have to hear one horror story of someone catching a nail in their opponent's uniform and ripping it out to always keep them short Blum 3

fairnymph's picture

Embodiment

Nail pain is the worst. My nails grow VERY quickly so though I file them regularly, they're often long enough to leave some scratches.

By gradual, I did also mean within the context of a relationship (though not necessarily an exclusive, serious one) - but still, interesting that it bothered you so. Are you pretty strong? I'll be honest, I have no idea how difficult it is to actually strangle someone.

Davik's picture

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My understanding is that it only takes about 50 lbs of pressure to actually break the cartilage in the throat, and less to temporarily cut off blood flow through the carotid and jugular (this being typically non-fatal, but causing someone to pass out is generally un-sexy). Also by this time I was a senior in college; I'd hit college in pretty good shape from wrestling and martial arts (asides from being WAY too thin), then spent the next four years lifting weights and running for around 10 hours a week. I was running ten miles in a shot and could rep in excess of my body weight on bench without a problem, so yeah, I was fairly strong Smile Sadly at this point it's going to be probably a year to get back to this shape now that I have time to work out again, and the summer's knee injury didn't help matters at all.

Laureril's picture

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The human body is at the same time amazingly fragile and incredibly resilliant. In two or three months of martial arts training (yellow belt at the time in Youn Wha Tae Kwon Do), I was able to put enough force behind a ridge hand to break a board equivalent to a human rib. On the other hand, people have had partial reserve parachute failures and lived!

Choking someone is pretty easy - even collapsing a windpipe isn't hard if you know how to hit it. I really don't have any desire to get into that kind of play 1) because I have asthma and 2) because it's REALLY DANGEROUS.

The Which's picture

Embodiment

I didn't take either of my nipple piercings out until a couple months into my pregnancy, and I breastfed with no issues at all.

magalicious's picture

Postulant

... is my imagination, or someone else's.
Not that I don't like toys, and especially bondage, but I find that creativity more than makes up for a lack in toys.

Davik's picture

Embodiment

I don't have any toys that I like for me, but as far as favorite with someone else there's nothing better than a few good lengths of soft nylon rope Smile It's cheap, it's versatile, and you can tie someone into so many different positions. Plenty of other things are fun (an ice cube or two can be very amusing), and the wireless remote control vibrator was good for some kicks out in public, but they typically didn't see as much use.

raecchi's picture

Devotee

I'm tempted to go with the obvious answer of "my boyfriend" but I suspect he might make some half-hearted protestations about not being a sex toy. (Or, more likely, argue that it's the other way around.)

As for actual toys, vibrators do absolutely nothing for me, so my favorite is a curved glass dildo I got about six months ago. It should last me roughly forever, barring accidents, and it's perfect for very firm g-spot stimulation. Also good for temperature play, and it feels really awesome when it warms to exactly my body temp.

The Which's picture

Embodiment

I can barely orgasm without a vibrator. I would make some suggestions, but honestly, the only one I use right now is a teeny tiny one, the make of which I dont know. It really bothered some guys that they couldn't get me there without help, but I'm comfortable with the limitations and I enjoy sex, orgasm or no. (not that I've had any recently)

One of my top fantasies involves being taken by surprise while masturbating... yeah, it's a good one Wink

MeiLin's picture

Most High

I'm a Hitachi girl, though. Nothing subtle for me!

The Which's picture

Embodiment

I had some more elaborate options, but for some reason, that little one just... struck my fancy Blum 3

Willow's picture

Devotee

... a cheap ripoff of that which works for me. I didn't used to like such strong stimulation, but things changed as I got older.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

taught me about the wonders of female ejaculation. It's so messy, but so worth it!

Stormy's picture

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This
http://www.bettersex.com/Vibrators/Dual-Stimulation-Vibrator/sp-wild-g-s...
is my current favorite.

For the longest time I couldn't orgasm without a vibrator, either. I recently discovered the capability for vaginal orgasms--I wasn't able to withstand the deep penetration necessary before giving birth, and sex post-kid has been mostly meh until just the last few weeks--and ZOMG has that changed things for me. I had a *very* good birthday, even though my thighs were sore for two days. I still like my toys, though, and that getting caught fantasy gets some pretty good play around my house as well.

I just bought a strap-on and am very much looking forward to trying it out. From what he says, the recipient is looking forward to it as well. So we'll see how that goes }:)

b2creative's picture

That one looks even better than my current Rabbit. I think they all make a good bit of noise, unfortunately. But I still might have to give this one a try ...

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

Have fun with that, and good luck! My strap on is one of my favorite toys...I take it really slow at first, and use lots of lube (KY sticks to it best, so I add that first, and then pour on a little astroglide). A lubricated condom can help, too. (And if you decide you like it, you might want to check out sex swings; I find that that makes it easier to get the angle right.)

Martha's picture

I love this swedish company called lelo, they have all kinds of toys, including toys for boys - and none of them looks weird or cheap.
my favourite would be the gigi, http://en.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme&groupName=GIGI

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

know their stuff, when it comes to vibrators. My first was a Swedish Erotica product a little like the 7-in-1. It's still one of my favorites Smile That one looks really cool, though; I've never even heard of Lelo! Maybe I'll have to invest...thanks!

Laureril's picture

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For those of you trying to figure out the emoticon above - it's a gauge currently pointing at empty, thus the sadness.

I don't have any and don't know if I ever will but I do know of one that looks like a ton of fun - especially if I was actually attracted to girls. I don't know if you've ever heard of it, but it's called a feeldoe. Strapless strap-on. Looks like a ton of fun if I actually had someone to use it on. My boyfriend is rather adamant about his rear being a one-way street. The testimonial that honestly impressed me was the transgendered man-turned-woman who fell in love with a woman after her operation and said it was like having her own equipment back. Shocked

Aack transgender pronouns are difficult. I'm trying to be sensitive to the issue, but I'm sorry if I did it wrong and offended someone.

Pedes's picture

Postulant

I want that! XD

ereuyi's picture

I've seen several versions of this, I think Babeland has like three or four different brands? I'm saving my pennies for the Share.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

I have that one! I checked out the nexus and the share before I picked that one, and I've found it works pretty well. My only complaint is that there is one position that I have trouble with. When I'm kneeling, with my legs spread apart and my knees under my partner's thighs (so they're on their back), it tends to fall out when I finish and lose control of the muscles (and by then, it's super slippery). I fixed the problem with a traditional ring harness, by tucking the ring under the base of the shaft instead of sticking the shaft through the ring. That gave me the support I needed to keep it in when I came. I've heard that from a number of places...that some girls need extra support when using it, and that various harnesses, homemade or otherwise, could be used to keep it in place. Also, if you get the vibrating one, take the batteries out when you're not using it. They get drained even when it's not on, and that causes them to die very quickly. All in all, a great toy! I usually pair it with a strap on vibrator, like this, because it's not strong enough for me to finish without external stimulation.

ereuyi's picture

I'm a fan of running water and vibrators, myself. I used to have just a hard plastic slimline, but I got one from a German company called Fun Factory last year that I really like. It's called the Delight, and it works really well for me since I like both clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Also, it has a case that it sits in to recharge, so I didn't have to find a toybox just for it.

When I was too young to buy sex toys I used a Squiggle Wiggle Writer~
Minus the ink tip, mind you.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

I used to have one of those! And it was such a cool pen thing! But I never ever thought to use it in that capacity. Ever. Now I really wish I had. I'm kind of tempted to see if I can get one on ebay, throw an unlubricated condom on it, and give it a spin.

V's picture

Embodiment

http://www.amazon.com/Squiggle-Wiggle-Writer/dp/B000ITANAK
http://www.theraproducts.com/index.php?main_page=product_therapro_info&c...
http://www.harttoys.com/swwriter.html
Second one is noticeably cheaper but out of stock. Third might actually be the creator, or someone just forgot to trademark the name.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

I love how it's under "Health and Personal Care" on Amazon like the rest of their sex toys. I really would have expected...idk...office supplies? Clearly other people have had similar ideas about it. Smile
I'll let you know how it goes if I get it Wink

Gudy's picture

Embodiment

Seeing as the Hitachi Magic Wand turns up not just once but twice in the "Customers Who Viewed This Item Also Viewed" list, to say absolutely nothing about the "Suggested Tags from Similar Products" thing. Just read it! Biggrin

girlthing's picture

Petitioner

I looked and saw the Hitachi's down in the 'also viewed' list, but I also found "SPSS 16.0 Student Version for Windows by Inc. SPSS". hmm. kinky? who knows?

also there's a list of tag words associated with it, mostly about sex toys. pretty funny. Smile makes me wonder if maybe Amazon is tracking all the hits coming from meilin's url, haha! they could be on to us!

ereuyi's picture

I think it also gets used as a therapy thing, too, given the "so your child has autism" recommendations.

The Which's picture

Embodiment

My former roomate actually used an electric toothbrush before she got up the guts to go into a porn store.

V's picture

Embodiment

I had a girlfriend who used a 3-legged back massager. The very first valentines day we were in a store while she did some shopping. She was pleased and impressed with the resulting rabbit.

Stormy's picture

Supplicant

I started with a toothbrush, too. I was too young for a porn store, though. Smile

Wraith's picture

Petitioner

I actually rather like mine, even though I rarely use it. Keeping it clean is a bit of a hassle, especially since there's three of us in my apartment and only one bathroom. Most of the time my hand and a good erotic story (now where could I find one of those???? :P) is plenty, since I'm going on three years without so much as a date Sad

fairnymph's picture

Embodiment

Plz? It fascinates me. Biggrin

And *hugs* re: celibacy. I feel you, though I'm not at your point yet, I'm the longest I've gone since I lost my virginity.

Wraith's picture

Petitioner

It actually feels quite good. Not as good as the real thing but better than my hand (when I bother to pull it out). Stormy was right about the noise, although speed has never been an issue. I ussually have to force myself to slow down, because part of why I got it was I felt I wasn't lasting long enough. Not that my first (and so far only Sad ) girlfriend complained, but I'm fairly sure she only ever got off when i went down on her. They do have a stamina training model and a website with some decent tips, I just haven't had the time and I know my age is really against me here.

All in all, I'd say it was almost worth the fifty bucks or so I paid, but it usually isn't worth the hassle that goes with it. As I said, my hand will do for now until I find someone willing to put up with me :P.

Davik's picture

Embodiment

The best free erotic stories (purely erotic that is, as opposed to some we all know that use sex in the story line) I've found were from www.literotica.com; let us know if you enjoy them.

Shinjinarenai's picture

Postulant

Except that my parents found it on our family computer history and had a fit. Still.... good times.

Qendrix's picture

I love to visit this site and read about others for a release (especially before I found my current gf). I like that it's mainly amateurs and not professionals so most of the stories feel like something I would write and it gives more of a closeness than any erotic tales collections I've seen in bookstores (no offense Meilin, I like your stuff better too). Hopefully when my gf gets internet in her house we can read the stories there and here together without having to print them out first and leaving possible evidence around for prying eyes to find.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

Feel free to link your favorite stories! I love that site. I've been looking for more visual porn lately, mostly because I have seen almost none of it, so if anyone has good site recommendations for that, I'd be interested as well.

Davik's picture

Embodiment

Eh, it's been more than a year and a half since I last had sex, so there's really no point in claiming innocence... If you have a particular pornstar you like or just don't like paying money, try freeones.com Outside of that there are some youtube kind of things out there if you want to bother finding them.

Wraith's picture

Petitioner

A good site I use when I'm in the mood for a visual is http://www.xnxx.com it is 100% free, and unlike many free sites has an active policy against any kind of viruses or trojans. It has movies, stories and pictures, as well as a fairly active forum.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

That's awesome, I really appreciate the help. Thank you!

Stormy's picture

Supplicant

Hubby's Fleshlight has held its smell for a LONG time. I'm kinda impressed and vanilla IS yummy.... I don't know about when (if?) he uses it by himself, but together it's more of a novelty thing. The feel of the material is pretty awesome, but it makes some weird airy/squishy noises that can be a little distracting and it's hard to build up a lot of speed.

As Wraith said, keeping a Fleshlight clean when you don't have a private bathroom can be...interesting. The actual cleaning doesn't take long, but it takes FOREVER to dry.

And I'll add my vote for literotica.com for stories.

NekoMegi's picture

Petitioner

I have never actually played with any toys. Not that I'm not open to the idea, but...hm. I'm not really sure why it's never happened, other than not being able to afford them.

http://www.OhMiBod.com

Pedes's picture

Postulant

Actually I find a lot of sex toys disgusting... I have to find an... object aesthetically pleasing before I'd want to... use it. I mean: not something that looks like an alien lifeform or an accident in mannequin factory.

But on my university forum I saw a link to that http://www.joemonster.org/art/10798/Japonskie_jajko_z_niespodzianka (sorry it's Polish, but with the pictures you get the idea XD )

kalinka's picture

Postulant

I don't like sex toys and neither does my boyfriend. Like some other people have said, I'm sort of a naturalist, and the best toy is by far my imagination. Also, as far as masturbation goes, visual stimulation doesn't do it for me. I have to read it and imagine it.

annekat's picture

Petitioner

I am a big fan of my Fun Factory vibe:
http://www.funfactory.de/produkte.php?pmenuid=44&produktid=354&
it isn't that one, but it's close (I guess mine is retired, also, no eyes)
I have great fun browsing the local sex store (http://venusenvy.ca) and looking at all the fun toys, yet I rarely buy them.
My next adventure is going to be playing with some Honey Dust...

Davik's picture

Embodiment

I'd actually talked about running a knot tying clinic at one point for some friends who were tired of their partners getting out of their knots, so I might as well post a few of my favorites here with links to instructions on tying them:

1) The Bowline, it's easy to get out of, but has the benefit that no matter what you do it won't collapse down under load, so you don't have to worry about cutting off circulation: http://www.animatedknots.com/bowlineboating/index.php

2) Two half hitches, the polar opposite of the bowline, it's a pure and simple slip knot done the right way. Beyond specific points were you want a slip knot, you can also use it for adjusting the lengths of your leads to tie off points like bed posts by putting an overhand knot in the rope (this way the knot can slip down to the point of the overhand and no further, so the overhand sets the length):
http://www.animatedknots.com/roundturnscouting/index.php?LogoImage=LogoG...
3) Handle, what they call the stopper knot can easily be turned in to a handle in a piece of rope by looping around the rope about 8 times before you shove back through the loop. I'll let your imagination to fill in the details of what you would use it for Smilehttp://www.animatedknots.com/stopperscouting/index.php?LogoImage=LogoGro...

4) Tie off loop, this is typically used in climbing/mountaineering where you want to create a bunch of set loops in the rope that you can then use to tie off to (hooking to climbing harnesses, putting carabiners through, etc.). It's also known (at least among the people I learned it from) as the "make a man, head between the legs, to the back, up the ass" for how you tie it Blum 3 In the bedroom you can use it to create tie off points, e.g. no head board or bed posts? tie a couple of these into a rope and tie both ends to the bed frame, you can then pull the rope up and have a couple of instant loops to tie into or hook to handcuffs.
http://www.animatedknots.com/alpinebutterfly/index.php?LogoImage=LogoGro...

5) Lashings, my cursory glance didn't find anything great for webpages for this one, but lashings are perfect for bondage. They take a little while to tie, but diagonal lashings (for connecting two perpendicular poles, or... other things :p) has so many uses, and the more complicated horizontal lashing of two parallel poles can give you the equivalent of a pair of handcuffs with a rigid bar between them with enough length that you can still the knot in the middle where it can't be reached with either hand. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lashing_knot

I'm sure I could come up with more, but these are many of the big ones, and if people are interested I can see about posting more.

Gudy's picture

Embodiment

I highly recommend more bondage-specific resources like Twisted Monk's instructional videos or the huge number of tutorials Jack Elfrink has on his site.

Davik's picture

Embodiment

Some of those look fairly interesting, and I may have to look in to them some more. I was aiming for more of a basics of knot work, since I spent a good chunk of my scout career teaching knots and watching kids turn bowlines into mutant nooses Blum 3 That site seems to have messed up at least one knot in name at least though (which I only picked up on because I'm experienced archer and saw the name), the bowstring knot which doesn't even resemble an actual bowstring knot.

magalicious's picture

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This. Is. Awesome!

girlthing's picture

Petitioner

I hadn't tried any sex toys at all until about the last 6 months or so. I was feeling adventurous and out-of-school/home enough when I was in England to make a purchase.
I was pretty weary... I was increidbly weirded out by anything that vibrated at that point. I hated back massagers and chair massagers and the like, to the point of yelling at friends to keep them away from me (which never worked, of course). I had also never really liked penetration of any sort outside of actual intercourse... even fingers felt awkward and unpleasurable. so I sort of took a chance on a FunFactory minivibes toy that vibrated. I found out I kinda like the vibration after all, I just had to relax a little. Still not down with the penetration though, but I'm glad I got the toy anyway. I've even gotten my boyfriend to use it a couple of times to help me, uh, finish. since climax during intercourse is very rare for me.
so that's the only toy I've used so far. someone above linked to the fun factory website, which was cool to see. (: the one I have is called Angelo. I guess it's kind of tongue shaped?
anyway, next I might try that bondage tape that sticks to itself.... kinda already suggested it through lots of linking in IM to my loving boyfriend, so woo.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

that you found something that works for you! That bondage tape stuff is cool, and you get some for super cheap with your first purchase from the Lovers Temple!

araharu's picture

So I just got my first Debit card in the mail today, which means that my parents no longer can see what I'm spending money on ^_^. So I was considering buying a toy, but after reading all of the things posted here, I got a bit overwhelmed. I'm just looking for something simple, but a step up from the average porn/smut. Note: I'm a heterosexual male, looking for something rather vanilla. Any suggestions?

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

Are you interested in something for your inside parts? If so, I would recommend a hard plastic egg on a cord that vibrates. Don't use anything that doesn't have a flange or a cord that will prevent it from being irretrievably sucked in, and use lots of lube. Vibrating cock rings are also pretty popular. Check out the review of the fleshlight above. You could even get something made of squishy plastic for just behind your balls, if you think that is something you would like. I can also recommend e-stim stuff if you're interested in something like that. Let me know if any of that appeals to you, and I can make a more specific recommendation. If none of it does, post that too...I bet there are a lot of people with really good recommendations.

araharu's picture

Not particularly interested in anal, but thank you. I'm sort of hesitant to go for the fleshlight because, as mentioned above, I've heard many mixed reviews. Honestly, I know pretty much zippo on this topic in general, so pretty much any recommendations you can make would be beneficial.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

you just want to get the cheapest thing you can that vibrates, and play around with it a little. Put it up against every part of you (and maybe even try just the tip in your butt with some lube), and see where you like the sensations the best. Put it up against the back of your hand while you're touching yourself, and see if you like that. Once you have a little bit of a better idea, then think about getting something more specialized (which may equal more expensive, but at least you'll know more what it is you're looking for).

I think above all, though, I would recommend some astroglide. It's pretty much the best lube ever for guys, in my experience (this is what they tell me, after extensive research). If you're looking to spice it up a little, but you don't want anything too crazy, give that a shot.

kawaiikune's picture

Embodiment

ever heard of A Different Light? It's a bookstore I ran into in San Francisco, and I just thought it was really cool. If you're ever in the area, you should check it out. I had never seen a bookstore that was dedicated to gay and lesbian stuff, as well as general sexuality, etc. There were tons of awesome, educational books and the whole atmosphere was really cool. I even found some books that taught me a few things about my straight sex life and my "by myself" sex life.

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